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Not long ago I wrote about the Attracting Power that we all share and how it literally summons the things and people into your life that you need to fulfill your purpose in life. I mentioned a book that I located in the Psychology Section of the local public library titled: Prisoners Of Childhood [...]]]> http://www.danomi.com/2009/12/this-week-in-books-high-risk-children-without-a-conscience/feed/ 1 http://www.danomi.com/2009/11/hells-a-great-place-to-visit/ http://www.danomi.com/2009/11/hells-a-great-place-to-visit/#comments Fri, 13 Nov 2009 14:32:22 +0000 Young Che http://www.danomi.com/?p=1114 gtvt_posts[1114] = {url: "http%3A%2F%2Fwww.danomi.com%2F2009%2F11%2Fhells-a-great-place-to-visit%2F", title: "Hell%26%238217%3Bs%20A%20Great%20Place%20To%20Visit", category: "Motivation", desc: "I%20got%20the%20opportunity%20to%20walk%20through%20hell%20recently.%20%20It%20was%20a%20very%20enlightening%20journey.%20%20If%20you%20have%20never%20been%20you%20should%20go%20someday.%20%20There%20is%20so%20much%20to%20learn%20from%20the%20people%20there.%20%20There%20is%20also%20a%20lot%20to%20learn%20about%20your%20self%20there.%20%20It%20is%20a%20place%20that%20is%20full%20of%20mirrors%20showing%20you%20how%20wretched%20you%20must%20have%20looked%20to%20those%20outside%20of%20hell.%20%20When%20you%20realize%20that%20you%20are%20in%20hell%20and%20constantly%20see%20yourself%20for%20the%20wretch%20you%20are%20it%20has%20a%20way%20of%20giving%20you%20the%20insight%20that%20you%20need%20to%20see%20yourself%20as%20a%20better%2C%20more%20beautiful%20you%3B%20if%20only%20you%20are%20granted%20another%20chance.%20%20Yeah%2C%20if%20you%20are%20in%20hell%20chances%20are%20you%20fucked%20up%20somewhere%20along%20the%20way%20and%20you%20definitely%20need%20another%20chance%20from%20someone.%20%20%20"}; I got the opportunity to walk through hell recently. It was a very enlightening journey. If you have never been you should go someday. There is so much to learn from the people there. There is also a lot to learn about your self there. It is a place that [...]]]> http://www.danomi.com/2009/11/hells-a-great-place-to-visit/feed/ 0 http://www.danomi.com/2009/11/attracting-power-4-1/ http://www.danomi.com/2009/11/attracting-power-4-1/#comments Thu, 12 Nov 2009 15:50:22 +0000 Young Che http://www.danomi.com/?p=1108 gtvt_posts[1108] = {url: "http%3A%2F%2Fwww.danomi.com%2F2009%2F11%2Fattracting-power-4-1%2F", title: "Attracting%20Power%204.1", category: "Books", desc: 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Every human being is like a magnet constantly attracting things and other beings into their lives. The other day I stopped by the New Orleans Public Library in order to return a couple of books and check out some more. As usual I started out in the Sci-Fi section. I can’t seem [...]]]> http://www.danomi.com/2009/11/attracting-power-4-1/feed/ 1 http://www.danomi.com/2009/11/our-journey/ http://www.danomi.com/2009/11/our-journey/#comments Wed, 11 Nov 2009 16:16:03 +0000 Young Che http://www.danomi.com/?p=1104 gtvt_posts[1104] = {url: "http%3A%2F%2Fwww.danomi.com%2F2009%2F11%2Four-journey%2F", title: "Our%20Journey", category: "Motivation", desc: "The%20real%20journey%20that%20we%20all%20must%20make%20is%20the%20journey%20within.%20%20We%20must%20all%20travel%20deep%20within%20our%20own%20selves%20in%20order%20to%20learn%20all%20there%20is%20to%20know%20about%20the%20universe%20that%20we%20are%20a%20part%20of.%20%20We%20all%20are%20products%20of%20the%20universe%20in%20which%20we%20were%20created.%20%20%0D%0A%0D%0AIf%20you%20hope%20for%20any%20reward%20at%20all%20in%20this%20life%20it%20will%20be%20found%20somewhere%20buried%20deep%20down%20within%20your%20own%20being.%20%20We%20all%20have%20treasures%20and%20riches%20buried%20inside%20of%20us.%20%20However%20we%20all%20get%20distracted%20by%20the%20world%20around%20us%20which%20knocks%20of%20the%20real%20path%20that%20we%20must%20all%20travel.%20%20Sometimes%20our%20careers%20stand%20in%20our%20way.%20%20Sometimes%20our%20friends%20stand%20in%20our%20way.%20%20Sometimes%20our%20family%20stands%20in%20our%20way.%20%20As%20important%20ingredients%20as%20all%20of%20these%20distractions%20may%20be%20to%20our%20existence%20in%20this%20world%20we%20cannot%20allow%20them%20to%20become%20hindrances%20to%20the%20overall%20goal%20of%20our%20lives.%20%20We%20all%20know%20that%20our%20lives%20have%20more%20significance%20than%20what%20we%20see%20and%20do%20everyday%20but%20we%20can%E2%80%99t%20seem%20to%20put%20our%20finger%20on%20it.%20%20We%20know%20that%20we%20have%20greatness%20lying%20inside%20of%20us%20just%20waiting%20to%20be%20discovered.%20%20Our%20collective%20mistake%20is%20thinking%20that%20someone%20else%20will%20come%20along%20and%20unearth%20our%20greatness.%20%20We%20must%20make%20a%20commitment%20to%20ourselves%20to%20unearth%20the%20greatness%20inside%20of%20us%20and%20then%20share%20it%20with%20the%20rest%20of%20the%20world%20so%20that%20others%20may%20be%20inspired%20to%20unearth%20their%20greatness%20as%20well.%20%20This%20will%20push%20us%20toward%20a%20better%20tomorrow.%20%20%0D%0A"}; The real journey that we all must make is the journey within. We must all travel deep within our own selves in order to learn all there is to know about the universe that we are a part of. We all are products of the universe in which we were created. 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I’m writing for a reason. Primarily because this is how I am choosing to make my living. This is what I do for a living so I have to do it everyday. The content that [...]]]> http://www.danomi.com/2009/10/are-you-ready-to-write-a-novel/feed/ 0